Friday, September 18, 2015

Are You Trying to be Perfect?





Many people worry about what others think of them, and behave how they think others expect them to. However, women seem to have the idea that they must be Super Woman. Times have changed, and many women have jobs outside the home, and yet they still cling to the “standards” of the full-time housewives of the 1950s.  Women have a “code of conduct” that would wear out a dozen men.


Women think they have to be great housewives, perfect mothers, fantastic chefs, and the perfect partner. Without holding the same standards for the rest of their family, or even friends, they set themselves up for failure by expecting too much of themselves. Everyone wants a beautiful home, perfect children, and the happiest of spouses, and think it is their responsibility to make all of this happen.

We can make restaurant worthy meals, chauffeur our kids to every event, have a spotless house, and look fantastic for our spouses. We can spend every waking moment “making things perfect,” but at what cost? Are you too grouchy to have fun with your children? Are you mad at our husband because you cannot keep up with the messes? Are your kids afraid to play with something for fear of making a mess? If everyone is mad or afraid, or hurt, are you really doing such a perfect job?

Our biggest critic is ourselves. Why is it OK for the kids to get a B, or our husband to forget a birthday, but we cannot forgive ourselves if everything isn’t perfect? Why are our standards for ourselves so much higher than those around us? Why must we be perfect, when those around us are allowed to be imperfect?

One day, a very wise woman shared with several younger women the problem with these higher standards held only for women. She explained it like this:    

Imagine a large pitcher sitting on the counter, and several glasses all around it. You, the woman, are the pitcher, and the glasses are your husband, your kids, your friends, and everyone you have commitments with.  The pitcher’s job is to fill the glasses. So, when you are full, you can fill them up quickly. However, as you fill them, you are giving up yourself, to fill others. 

 Eventually, you, the pitcher, is empty.  Now what?  Those who you gave to cannot fill you up. They needed that for themselves. So now what? You can’t fill yourself up.  If you try to refill yourself, you can only do this by being demanding, grumpy, angry, or mean. That doesn’t help anyone, because there’s nothing there. 




This is where women need other women . . .  friends, family, and even strangers.   We need other women to refill us, so that we can continue to fill those who are counting on us. We need these women to support us. To tell us we are doing a good job. Confirm that our feelings are normal. Those who will make us laugh again. Those who will confirm our worth.

We need others to help us refill. But, there is a way to make the need for refills less frequent.  Ask for help before you are empty. Lower your expectations. Do the kid’s T-shirts really need to be ironed? Could the kids just put all their toys in a box, instead of on shelves?  Sandwiches once in a while for dinner won’t kill anyone. Could we eat on paper plates some days? Does everything HAVE to be 
perfect?



If the house is healthy, and happy, maybe we are expecting too much.  If you are concerned that someone might show up and you’d be embarrassed, ask for help. Get the kids to help (even little ones can play a game of picking things up and putting them into a box). But most of all, don’t set higher standards for yourself than you have for those around you. And don’t set them so high that those around you are unhappy. The world won’t fall apart if everything isn’t perfect.



The most important thing is: Don’t let your own vessel run dry! If you do, you cannot nurture your family!!  So, ask that friend out to lunch to vent, or just laugh.   Go get a manicure. If you can afford it, hire someone to clean the house once in a while – there are teens out there looking for work! And many lonely people who would love to earn a little, and help you while you spend time with them. Find those who can help you refill. Find things you can do to refill. Don’t neglect yourself and then blame others.
Get those refills every chance you can. You never know when there might be a drought.

So, Pitchers (Women) of the world, band together to keep each other full. That way, when we need a refill, there will be someone available for us!! 




































Tuesday, September 15, 2015

Water Off a Duck's Back

Have you ever noticed that ducks dive under the water for small fish, and come back up
to the surface, and the water runs off their back?
The reason for this is because their feathers have oils that waterproof their wings.
Without this oil, the wings would become waterlogged, and the ducks would sink, and
drown.
Compare the water making the wings soggy with troubles in your life. If you allow them
to "build up" on your wings, they will weigh you down. In order to keep from drowning in
your troubles, you need to learn how to get them to roll right off your back.
I worked with juvenile delinquent teenage girls. I always told the new girls about how
ducks made the water roll off their backs, and that, in life, we, too, must learn how to
allow things that weigh us down to roll off our backs.
"Water off a duck's back" was my cue to a girl that she was letting too much drag her
down, and she needed to let go.
Often, in the home, when a girl was really upset, you would hear her quietly telling
herself, "Water off a duck's back, water off a duck's back"



One day, two girls were arguing, and I was afraid that things were going to get ugly. I
could see the one girl trying hard to let it go, and not succeeding. I said, "Water off a
duck's back!"
The girl came over to me, and said, "I tried that, but it isn't working!!!"
I looked at her, and said, "Start quacking!!!"
She looked at me like I was nuts!
I said, "Start quacking!!! Flap those wings, and start quacking!!"
The girl still thought I was crazy, but the other girl was approaching her, obviously, still mad. The girl turned to her, started 'flapping her arms' and saying "quack, quack" . . . .
"quack, quack" . . . . after about five of these, both of the girls started laughing. The other
girl joined in, and finally, we had 14 girls flapping their wings, and quacking.


The first girl came up to me, and asked why I had told her to do this. I replied,
"I figured either she would think you are nuts, or you would both start laughing. People
usually won't fight someone that appears crazy, and it is impossible to laugh and be mad
at the same time."
Both girls smiled, thanked me, and went back to being friends.
So, if life has made your wings soggy, and you are about to drown. Tell yourself . . .
"Water off a duck's back". If that doesn't work, flap those wings and start quacking!! It is
impossible to feel overwhelmed when you are laughing. EVERYONE NEEDS TO OIL
THOSE WINGS so you don't drown.




Thursday, September 3, 2015

Women, It's Time!!!

Women, It’s Time!!

Men have had thousands of years to rule our planet. They had centuries to be good stewards of the land. But, instead of caring for the land, while we bore their children, and kept their homes, they began destroying the land. They destroyed mountains for precious metals, and dug holes in the ground for oil for fuel. 
They developed all kinds of toys to play with, and to get jobs done, but their favorite toys were ones that were either destructive, or mostly for fun. Their toys required natural resources to run them, so they dug more holes, destroyed more mountains, and did not notice that they were poisoning our water and air in the process.

AND WE DID NOT COMPLAIN: 


As technology continued, they became lazier, because they created machines that could do a lot of the work for them. They were bored, because women were busy cooking, cleaning, raising the kids, tending to chores the men didn’t get to, and bearing their children. Women were unable to pay attention to them all the time, so they created their own entertainment.

AND WE DID NOT COMPLAIN:

With organization and mechanization, men were able to cut their hours of work, and needed more stimulation to keep them out of trouble, just like children.  So they created radio, and then television, and found ways to put their feet up and relax while their wives prepared their meals, cleaned their clothes, bore their children, washed their dishes, and fed and cared for their kids.

AND WE DID NOT COMPLAIN:                       


Then, the need for more radios, TVs, telephones, fancy cars, bigger homes to house their toys, created cash flow problems. So, women, again, picked up the slack and went to work, to bring in a second paycheck, so their man would stay home and be faithful instead of looking for entertainment elsewhere. But when we returned home, we still had to clean their house, cook their meals, feed and care for their kids, and wash their dishes.

AND WE DID NOT COMPLAIN:

Resources became harder to find, so they developed new ways of cracking the Earth to get more fuel out of the Earth. But to do this, they had to poison more water, and then pump it deep into the earth where it would once again, poison our water. But they put other men to work doing this so they could watch their TV, listen to their music, and put their feet up. Meanwhile, women made their meals, cleaned their houses, washed their clothes, fed and cared for their children, had their babies, and all of this after they got home from their job.

AND WE DID NOT COMPLAIN:

Bored men are dangerous, and our men were used to getting their ways, so they became restless. Unfortunately, when men are restless, and the women are away at work, or working in the home, the men create their own entertainment. They decided that they had created a country they were satisfied with, and a government they thought was the best, so they decided that others needed to experience the same kind of government. Unlike women, who would have negotiated, explained, and convinced these other countries, the men decided it was their job to force these countries to follow their ways. So, they went to war, fought these countries, and they tried to coerce the countries to follow their ways, and finally, after many years, they came home, sometimes defeated.

AND WE DID NOT COMPLAIN:

Soon, resources began to be harder to find, so they learned that there were resources in other lands. Instead of bartering and swapping like women would do, they started a war to take the oil. But our men were old, so they sent our sons to do their bidding and bring home the oil. Thousands of our sons, and then our daughters were sent to this foreign land, without their mothers, and proudly fought for their fathers. Sadly, many of our children did not come home and many who did were badly damaged. They lost limbs, were bombed, some captured, some rescued. They returned home battered, and hurt, and often with emotional and mental issues that we could not fix.

AND WE DID NOT COMPLAIN:

We started a new century and another man decided he wanted to show his father how things were done, so he decided that we would go back and get that oil in that far away land. But before they could, a true enemy attacked our land, killed men, women and children, and so our country, including our women demanded justice. But our leaders decided to go after the oil, instead of the murderers, and they sent our sons and daughters to fight this war. Again, we lost thousands of our children, and more came home battered, bruised, broken, and emotionally damaged.


AND WE DID NOT COMPLAIN:

A new leader worked at ending wars, and protecting our children, and our land, but he was met with obstruction from those who wanted more of those resources. He was able to finally bring justice for the deaths of all our people that were killed by terrorists, but that no longer mattered to the men in charge. They didn’t like him, because he was “different”
 He tried to get the other men in charge to find safer, cleaner methods of fueling their toys, but they did not want change.  All our children that were left started coming home, and the devastation to their bodies, and the damage to their psyche became more and more apparent. Our children could not function normally. They were “shell-shocked” and missing limbs. Their bodies had suffered in extreme conditions and they needed medical attention. But the men in control had cut the funding to help them. They allowed our children to go without medical treatment, without housing, without food. When they tried to get food, these men cut their benefits. Our grandchildren suffered because their fathers, and mothers, could not care for them, and the men would not help them. They were accused of being lazy. And the men in charge refused them help. All this time, the men were getting rich, and the rich were getting richer. The banks had been cheating the poor, and something needed to be done. But the men in charge were greedy. They would only help those who would pay them. They forgot that the people had elected them to office, and instead became prostitutes to wealthy men, because their greed had eaten their souls.
More and more people struggled to feed their families. Women worked two jobs, and still cleaned house, fed their families, cleaned up after their husbands, and took care of everything. They asked for relief, and the men in charge called them lazy.  


AND WE DID NOT COMPLAIN:
People around the world were getting poorer and poorer. Mothers like us were trying to save their children. They had heard wonderful stories of our country, so they saved their money and sent their children to our country, in hopes they would survive. Some nations had gangs that were forcing children into their gangs, and young girls were being raped, so more mothers starved and saved to get their children out before they were killed. They sent children by the thousands to our borders, in hopes they could be safe, and survive. But the men in charge had been poisoning the minds of the people, convincing many that they were above others, and told them that these children were diseased and horrible creatures. They used their TVs and radios to make people afraid, and mad. Many people listened, and tried to stop these children from entering our land. Others called them names, shouted at them, treated them badly. But they kept coming. They had nowhere else to go. They did not understand this hate. But some of us came forward, and offered our homes, our love and our comfort. Because we would want another woman to do that for our children if we were desperate enough to send them away. Thousands of these children came, and we tried to house them all, but the greedy men in charge would not release the money needed. They turned the public against these kids and against the parents that sent them here for safety. Sadly, many of these kids were housed in buildings and conditions that would tear our hearts out if they were our kids, but we could not get the men in charge to thaw their frozen hearts.


AND WE DID NOT COMPLAIN:
The men in charge started trying to sell off our precious parks and beautiful land to be used to dig more holes, destroy more mountains, cut down more trees, and poison more waters. But the land began to respond. Earthquakes began appearing in places that had never experienced them before. The loss of trees created an imbalance between carbon and oxygen, and the weather began to respond as well. Oceans started warming, causing trouble for sea life. Temperatures started rising, and scientists told us we needed to stop using fossil fuels and use renewable energy, or the world would suffer more. But the men in charge did not want to spend money. The preferred to give it to those people who would get them the fuels they needed for their toys, and the ones who the prostituted themselves to.
 They continued to sell themselves to the companies that dug the holes and destroyed the mountains, cut the trees and poisoned the waters, and ignored the cries of the scientists and most of the people. The men in charge continued to lie to the people. They used the TVs and the radios to infect their minds with lies, and fears, and hatred. They lied to the people about events going on, who was on their side, and tried to convince them that there was no need to change their ways.

The men in charge kept getting richer, while the people continued to suffer. But the men in charge convinced the people that were making ends meet that they were superior to those who had fallen on hard times, and demonized the poor. They convinced the people that homeless people were less than human, and passed laws making it illegal to feed them. They built benches and doorways so that homeless people could not comfortably sleep, and chased the homeless from the parks. They arrested people who tried to feed them. The men in charge managed to turn nearly half the population into cold-hearted, unloving, selfish people. They were convinced they were superior, and that it would be beneath them to help those in need. They convinced the people that those who were trying to make things better were the enemy, and actually convinced people to vote for them, even though they promised to continue to pollute their air and their water, and refuse medical care to their children. Whole towns had their water poisoned so bad the people went without water for weeks, and they accused the people of being “takers” for asking for water to drink and cook with. And yet, these people were convinced that the men in charge did it for their own good, and they voted to keep these people in charge.
All this time, the men in charge denigrated women. Made excuses for raping them, and told women that they were incapable of making their own medical decisions. They blamed women for being raped. They refused to accept responsibility for their own actions. They expected women to be quiet while they used religion and lower pay to keep women under their control. They paid women less than men, and tried to prevent women from voting by making unfair laws that hindered their voting. The men in charge had become afraid of women, because women had gotten a taste of financial freedom, and had become stronger, and more educated. So, they cut funding to schools. They did not want educated people. It is much easier to manipulate those who cannot think for themselves, and zombies were what they wanted. How else would they get rich if the women got smart enough to lead? But women had a taste of education, and they loved to learn, so they learned more and more, making them more qualified for higher paying jobs. But the men in charge refused to pay them what they were worth.

AND WE DID NOT COMPLAIN:

A new leader attempted to make peace with a people that had never attacked another land, but was working on nuclear materials. The leader had been raised by a wise grandmother, who taught him that friendship and talking was the smoothest way to peace. That friends are less likely to start a war with you. So, he went to other lands, or sent those he trusted, to talk. They talked, and they developed a good relationship with this land we had been enemies with for years. And they talked, and other nations joined us, and they negotiated a deal that would destroy most of the nuclear materials that our former enemy had developed, and their leaders promised to allow foreigners to inspect their facilities to guarantee that they kept their promises. Both sides understood that, though they did not completely trust each other, they would work at earning that trust. The people of the world were excited that a nuclear threat was about to be stopped! The country, itself was excited.
But the men in charge screamed and yelled and refused to accept this deal, because they still wanted to go steal the oil. Men running for President even promised to steal the oil. But our leader said, ”NO. The People want peace.”

So the men in charge lied. Their pawns on the TVs and radios lied to the people and convinced almost half of them that the deal was a bad deal. They convinced the old white men of their party that a war was the only way to stop a nuclear threat, and they lied about the deal. They never suggested that people read the deal, they wanted people to believe them. It was in their best interests that the people not read the deal, because then the people might figure out that they were lying.
These men in charge wanted to send our sons and our daughters to another war. Not to find peace, but to steal oil. Why did they want to do this? To make their “donors” richer. To put more money in their own pockets. War would mean more weapons manufactured. It meant more planes, more supplies, and more money for the wealthy owners of those industries. And once again, they believed that they could steal the oil and bring it home.

This time, we say “NO!!!”

Women Arise!!!                                                                   


Stand up for your children,
Stand up for your grandchildren.
Tell these men NO, you can’t have them
Tell them that if they want oil in a far off land, they can go get it themselves,
But we, the women of the world will not send our children to steal, or to die.
Men have had thousands of years to make things good, and they have failed.
It is time for women to show men how to do this. It is time for women to come out of our houses and clean up the world. We must not allow men to continue to poison our waters, pollute our air, or destroy our land. We must replant the trees, fix the landscapes and make the Earth beautiful again.
Nature is suffering, animals dying, and the climate changing because man has failed to be a good steward of his land. We have given them the reins for too long, and they have failed to use their intelligence to supply our needs without destroying our earth.
Women, come together all over the world. Tell the men we will no longer tolerate hate. We will not allow our children to live in fear. We will NOT send our children to battle, to fight when there are other options. We will not stand for our men leaving and never returning because they are fighting for the very things that are destroying our earth. It is time we showed them that kind words, love, compassion, and compromise are the best ways to settle disputes. We will show them that humans can sit down and discuss issues, listen to those around us, and work together to make the entire world a better place.
We will tear down the invisible borders of US and THEM. We are all human, and it is time we acted like it.   We call ourselves Humane, but our men have failed to live it.  Benevolence, compassion, understanding and kindness have not been a driving force between nations.



Women Arise.   We must stand together. If we don’t do something, our men will destroy us all.  We MUST stop the madness. No woman wants to watch her child die. Why would we want another woman to have to bury her child?  Every woman wants a better life for her children and grandchildren than she had, so why shouldn’t we help other women do the same for their children?

Every religion on Earth teaches Peace and Love, and yet we have allowed Hate and Fear and War in our lives. What makes us superior to animals, when even animals show compassion, and only kill for food? We must teach our children to stop waste. Food, water, resources are wasted on one continent, while another goes wanting. We must teach our children to share. After all, isn’t that what love is?
 Show the men of the Earth that love can be extended to all. That compassion is more healing than hate. Friendship is kinder than silence. We must reach out to each other all over the world. We must educate our children in things that matter. Teach them how to care for the Earth. Teach them how to communicate with each other. We must teach them tolerance, compassion, and love. We must instill pride and empathy, and hope. We must come together and restore the earth in all its glory. We must preserve pristine lands and protect them from those who would destroy them in the search of more resources. We must stop the extinction of animals, because if we can’t do that, how will we prevent the extinction of humans?
We must DEMAND clean energy, and refuse to allow another stream or river to be poisoned, or another mountain top torn away. We must stop deforestation without replacement of trees. We must do whatever is necessary to prevent the ice caps from melting. We cannot wait until it is too late. Men have argued and procrastinated instead of trying SOMETHING, ANYTHING!!!  We might make some mistakes along the way, but we must try to save our Earth!!


If we don’t stand up and tell men ENOUGH we will not see that. We will watch our children die from poisoned water. We will see our mountains destroyed, our trees cut down, and earthquakes shake things apart, and our weather get worse and worse. 
Women, we know that we are sisters, not enemies. So ARISE. Not just for ourselves, but for our families, too. For our children, for their children, and their children. Women clean house before they leave, so when they return it will be clean. Why shouldn’t we clean our Earth before we leave it?
  What woman would leave her home for her children to clean the mess that she made? What woman would not clean her home, knowing that visitors are coming? Well, visitors ARE coming!!! Family, friends, and strangers are coming to our land, and we should be ashamed to let them see it in the condition that it is.

How can we do this, when the men are in charge?? VOTE!!! Run for office!!! Be a LEADER!!  Support other women who are leaders. Vote the men out, and replace them with women. And most of all, tell men that we will NOT allow our children to die because of their stubbornness and greed.

How many men would survive a week, if they had to do their job, clean the house, cook the meals, do the laundry and care for the kids? And let’s face it, they can’t give birth to a child!!!

We are stronger than men!!!  It is time we reminded them of that. They might be able to lift heavier weight, but we can withstand more pain. WE repopulate the world. Without women, human life on Earth will die out. Why shouldn’t we have MORE say in how those children will live? 

Seek out your sisters for support.   


The men in charge say that we are the greatest country. But what great country would turn their backs on starving children? What great country would put helping the rich above helping those who fought their wars? What great country would demonize homeless people?  What great country would disrespect their leader? What great country would lower their investment in children, the leaders of the future? What great country would let thousands die every year for lack of healthcare? What great country would allow their leaders to spread hate, fear, and division? What great country would divide their people into “groups” and define each group with different degrees of acceptance?  What great country would turn away people who feared for their lives and had to escape a dangerous land?   What great country could look at pictures of dead children washed up on beaches because their families needed to escape a war torn land, and ignore the plight of these children?
WE CAN BE GREAT AGAIN, but we must hold our lawmakers accountable for turning our country into a bigoted, ugly, hateful, and fearful people. We must remove them from power, and let others know we will never again accept inequality. We must tell them “never again” will we choose war over a chance at peace. We must hold them responsible for the destruction of our land that they authorized because of greed. We must punish them for ignoring the needs of the many, to pacify the few. We must make this a better land for our children, and their children.
We must open our hearts to the world. We must be peacekeepers, not warmongers. We must find ways to heal the sick throughout the world.
We must stop the conspicuous consumption by the greedy, and help the needy. We must see those who are disadvantaged for what they are: on hard times. We must acknowledge that given the right circumstances, those homeless people could be US!!


So, Women, UNITE!!  Demand the respect we deserve. How DARE they treat their wives, daughters and female co-workers disrespectfully!  We KNOW their Mothers taught them better! Tell men to move over – they have failed, and they need to get out of the way so we can fix their mess!!








Thursday, May 28, 2015

REMEMBER THE FIRST AMENDMENT!!!

We have a Constitution and 26 Amendments to it. The first 10 were were so important, they were named the "Bill of Rights" and the Constitution would never have been accepted without those amendments.


Fast Forward 230+ years:
Today, the 2nd Amendment has become worthy of murder to protect, and yet, at the same time, those who try to use their FIRST Amendments rights, (you know, freedom of speech, Freedom of Expression, Freedom of religion, etc) are threatened with THEIR LIFE!!!!
So, it is OK to carry a gun around, scare the crap out of people, and take away people's ability to feel safe and pursue their own happiness; But it is NOT OK for someone to speak how they feel on a subject? How stupid is that?
It is OK to threaten people with guns, leave your guns lying around where small children can find them, and have gun ranges in your backyard where a stray may hit a neighbor, BUT, if someone is not of the same religion as you, YOU have a right to threaten to kill or rape them?
It is OK for a neighborhood watch member to violate the very rules of the neighborhood watch and shoot an unarmed teenager, BUT, let someone piss you off, and you think it is OK to shoot them, without a trial?
It is OK for you to leave your gun out where a small child finds it and kills another person, and you don't think you should even be taken to the police station, BUT, it is OK to demand the firing, arrest and execution of a police officer based on a 10 second video that provides no evidence of what lead up to that moment?

Since WHEN did the SCOTUS rule that the 2nd Amendment overruled all other Constitutional Rights?   I finished college in Dec. 2004, with a degree in Political Science.  At that point, I know for a fact, there had been no such judgement.
If my right to my own opinion, and my right to speak my opinion becomes LESS IMPORTANT than your right to carry a stupid gun, SOMETHING has gone wrong in AMERICA!!!
AND BTW, last I heard, even SCOTUS ruled that there CAN be regulation of guns. They have NEVER ruled that I cannot have my own thoughts, or that I cannot speak about how I feel. As long as I do not violate your Constitutional Rights, and I do not break the law, you have no RIGHT to threaten me, or anyone else, just because you don't like what they have to say.
It is TIME for America to REMEMBER THE FIRST Amendment. And that includes rights to Free Speech, Freedom of expression, peaceful assembly, AND that the government is not in the religion business.  You pray your way, and leave others to do the same. You know WHY?????? Because religion is SPEECH, EXPRESSION, AND ASSEMBLY!!!!!!!

Sunday, April 19, 2015

To America: 20 Years After the OKC Bombing - Stop the Hate!


20 years ago today, at 9:02am, 168 people, including 19 innocent children, were killed in an attack that changed America. More than 600 injured survivors wondered what had happened. America stood still.
The people of OKC wondered how a terrorist could make it to the very center of our country and do such damage. Immediately, We, as a nation, assumed it was the Muslims.  But we were wrong.

I lived in OKC at the time, and had friends who were victims. Every moment of that day is still vivid in my mind. In a state that felt so secure; so safe from terrorism because of our location, suddenly realized we were not safe.
Our country came to the same realization. If "they" could attack OKC, "they" could attack anywhere.

By 9:05am, our country knew fear like they could not imagine, and it hasn't left us.


Timothy McVeigh,  a man who described himself as a "Patriot", a veteran of the first Iraq war, bombed the Alfred P Murray Federal Building in Oklahoma City at 9:02 am. 

His goal was to hurt the "government".  What he will never know is how much he hurt "We, the People".

 Anger, Fear, & Hate are the tools of propagandists. They are used by evil men who wish to rule without being questioned. These emotions are nearly impossible to co-exist with love, which is why they are so valuable to those who wish to do us harm.

These tyrants know that if they can keep you in fear, hating those who are different, and suspicious, you will have no time to love your fellow neighbor. You will "trust" these people to rule over you without question. You will accept their lies as facts, and you will join them in vilifying those who disagree.

Fear and hate make us more vulnerable to attack. When you are constantly in fear, you cannot think straight. You are quicker to assume an attack that was not meant to be. You react quicker, and more fiercely. You are constantly vigilant for attack. Not only is this bad for your health, it is bad for those around you.

Timothy McVeigh started a horrible period in our nation. He claimed he was a “Patriot” and yet, he took 20 years from US. When are we going to stop letting the damages he caused that day continue to destroy our country?

On this 20th Anniversary, I ask every American, every person in this country, STOP THE HATE!!!! Do not let another generation live in fear, hate and anger over stupid trivial differences between us. How can we be the United States of America, when we are attacking each other.  We lived with each other’s differences for 200 years (minus the Civil War). Why can’t we now?

Timothy McVeigh was right about one thing. We need to hold our government accountable. We cannot allow our leaders to be bought. We must watch them carefully, demand answers, and see to it that they represent US, and do what is BEST for our country, the people. We, the People, are supposed to be in charge. It is time we took that seriously. But let’s not do it with hate, or anger, but with resolve that together, we will make the United States of America the best place in the World to want to live. Isn’t that we all want??

STOP the HATE. STOP the FEAR. STOP the ANGER.

I challenge every one of you to turn to those who are different from you, whether it is religion, political party, color of skin, sexual orientation, or even gender, and tell them you love them. Vow that from this day forward, you will seek truth, instead of lies. Love, instead of hate, and acceptance, instead of fear. Get to know these people. You might find yourself with some wonderful friends. 

Sunday, February 8, 2015

So You Think You Want No Government (Or very small Government)?

So you want smaller government? Or no government at all?
You think government has gotten too big?  Would you rather only your own state ruled over you?  What would happen if the federal government was not funded?You want smaller government? Which of these do you want to get rid of?
         Here is a guide to the * in the list: 
                          *federal & state both involved
                          **federal only
                          ***state only    

                                        
Let’s see how that would look:

No one to protect our freedom*
No military to protect our country**
No police forces*
Every state would have it's own laws (no reason to reciprocate)***
Gun permits would not be good across state lines*
No fire departments (only volunteer – and they would have to buy their own 
               equipment and buildings, too)*
No road being maintained*
No signals and stop signs – lines in roads, etc*
No public utilities (higher utility bills due to having to pay for power lines, sewer
         lines, etc)*
No water treatment plants*
No road crews in bad weather*
No rescue crews (except volunteer – again they would have to pay for all their 
          own equipment)*
Bridges would not be repaired*
Paved roads, if maintained, would have to become toll roads to pay for repairs*
No public schools*
No courts*
No prisons*
No protection from slum lords*
Oil prices would go up due to no subsidies, and the oil companies would pay for 
              all their drilling, etc*
Food prices would go up due to no subsidies*
Airlines would have to pay for airports, security, maintenance, air traffic 
                controllers, radar  (Airplane ticket costs would skyrocket)*
No airline inspectors **
No International relations – which could lead to tariffs on anything coming from
              abroad, and the inability to sell our goods overseas**
No embassies in other countries, no ambassadors**
No space exploration**
No emergency help after disasters**
No food stamps*
No student loans**
No Pell Grants**
No membership in NATO, UN, etc**
No allies from other countries. **
Cell phone companies and GPS services would raise prices due to paying for
                   rocket launches
Your money in the bank would not be insured, so if a bank squandered your 
                  money, or went bankrupt, your money is gone!**
Hospitals could refuse service if you couldn’t pay*
No food or health inspectors*
No protection at the borders*
No regulations to protect you from corporations that want to take your land**
No protection for our waterways and land**
No public museums, libraries, parks, or maintenance on historic sites**
No laws to protect your retirement**
No laws to protect you from unfair labor practices**
No unemployment if you lose your job*
Nothing to keep the states together**
No Congress**
No Social Security**
No Medicare**
No health departments*
No forestry service (which would lead to more forest fires)**
All government land would have to be sold off to pay off the debt, and it would be bought up by those who are wealthy enough to buy it.**
No Small Business loans**
No one to oversee Wall Street and investors**
No passports to travel to other lands**
Railroads would end up in disrepair – prices would go up to offset subsidies and 
             maintenance**
No protection from exorbitant fees and “charges” on credit cards, bank accounts, etc.
Without a “United States” you could end up having to pay to cross every state line
States would not have to recognize driver’s licenses, marriage certificates, college degrees, certifications, etc. if you moved.
Health insurance would not cover you if you crossed state lines.**



Which of these are you willing to give up????

Remember, the military accounts for a bigger portion than any other expenses.
What you spend in taxes now would look minor compared to higher costs of everything. When everything is privatized, and you have no government intervention, prices go as high as the private investors believe they can charge. So if you pay $5,000 in taxes every year, chances are, it would cost you more than that in increased prices for almost everything.


And, there would still be debt that needs to be repaid.

If we did away with only the federal government, everything that has * or ** would go up in cost, if kept at all.

And you think your taxes are so high???? Look at where the U.S. stands in taxes:


You don’t like our tax rates? Perhaps you would rather move to:
Kuwait, Albania, Venezuela, Egypt, Yemen, Angola, Honduras, Ukraine,
Thailand, Serbia, or Jordan

Who would protect you from price gouging? Or even your neighbors? What would keep your insurance company from refusing to pay for damages or losses? Will your neighbors help you stop your home from burning down? Who would pay for temporary housing if your home is destroyed by fire, tornado, hurricane, flooding, or earthquake? Where would we house serial killers? Who would try to find serial killers, bank robbers, murderers?  Who would keep traffic running smoothly? Who would try to stop epidemics in your area? Who would rescue you if your boat was disabled and you were lost at sea? Who would make automakers repair defects? Who would shut down restaurants that are filthy? Who would stop companies from selling dangerous medicines? The list goes on.

The Libertarian Party claims:  "The world we seek to build is one where individuals are free to follow their own dreams in their own ways, without interference from government"  However, what happens when your neighbor doesn't agree with you over property lines?  Or disturbing your peace?  Who will decide who is right in an accident? And who would decide if your freedom has been denied? Who would make the person who denied you of your rights stop?
Their platform indicates that they expect each person to do what is right, and because everyone will, we do not need government. Do you really believe people who break the law, when there are laws, can be counted on to do what is right when there are no consequences?  But, if there is no law, do you defend yourself?  If so, aren't you violating the other person's right? True Libertarians (who follow the platform) are against abortion laws, laws concerning religion, laws supporting religion, taxes, regulations, protecting the environment, etc.


What do we need government for?
To protect us from those inside & outside our country, who wish to harm us
To help individuals with disputes
To find and punish those who refuse to respect the rights and property of others
To protect people from unsafe products being sold
To provide a unity between states
To provide uniform laws, and reciprocity of laws between states
To help those who have suffered catastrophic losses
To help states with expenses (education, infrastructure, law enforcement, safety)
To give "the people" a sense of belonging to their country
To create good relations with other countries, so as to avoid conflict
To provide some uniformity throughout the country.
And so many more things

By sharing expenses for all of these across the states, everyone pays similar taxes. Whereas if each state was individual, some states, such as those in the Southeast, would find their taxes increasing exponentially, because they would be paying for all their own infrastructure, schooling, etc. States with smaller populations would have higher taxes than those with large populations. (Alaska, and Montana, watch out!) States with more natural disasters would pay higher amounts when they are hit.

As the United States, we are a large, formidable country, with only a few borders that are easily penetrated. As separate states, how vulnerable would we be? Would you trust your surrounding states to help keep your borders safe?

So, look at what our tax dollars provide us with and see what you want to eliminate. Then, instead of complaining, contact your representatives, and ask them to do something about it. And, don't vote if you do not know what your representative actually stands for. Check their voting record, not their promises. See what bills they have sponsored?  If the candidates have not served in government before, check their credentials. Do they understand the Constitution? What have they done to contribute to society up until now? Who is donating to them?  What do those who know them say? How do they live? If wealthy, do they help others?  Are they honest about their past? Do they answer questions, avoid them, or change the subject? Do they support education? Do they support equal freedoms for all?
Claims of "fiscal responsibility" are proven to be false when billions of dollars are wasted on frivolous bills that can never pass, failure to discuss and debate submitted bills, and including "amendments" that add additional costs to the bill (usually about something other than the actual bill), and shutting down the government.
If you really want a change in our government, you need to be an informed voter, who votes based on facts, not feelings. Base your decision on past performance, not empty promises. If you really want to change government, run for office. Or, be the most informed voter possible. The U.S. wins when our voters are intelligent, informed, and inquisitive.
The People lose when voters vote based solely on party, or political promises. If you have never voted across party lines, you just might be what's wrong with this country. Not everyone follows party platform. Candidates are not always what their ads say they are. Look at how many representatives have proven that they do not actually live by the standards they claimed to be for. And STOP falling for Media's LIES!!! Check it out for yourself, and not from a biased website!

So, small government, no government, state only, or fix what we have?  If you don't vote intelligently, it is up to those who buy our Congressmen that will decide for you. It is up to each one of us to make sure our representatives know what we expect of them. Let's not get stuck on "talking points". It is better to be specific. You want to "cut spending"?  Where??